Ever been upset about someone doing something for no apparent reason? This thing is hurtful to themselves but it really doesn’t effect you personally. The “thing” is also hurting (let’s call him Joe)’s family. It is evident in the relationships and how they seem to be strained and distant. It hurts to see that in Joe’s child. It is also hard to be around Joe because it feels like this “thing” is all that Joe wants to talk about. He tries to talk to me on facebook about it, tries to call me about it, worries how I feel about it. It is not my issue, it is his issue but it is almost like he wants to make it my issue. I guess “it” is hurting me, it is straining my friendship with him. I am glad he wants to be around me and wants to open up to me but I am sort of thinking: ENOUGH! Why can’t you stop this “thing”? Everyone needs to hit some bottom for these things, to decide that “I won’t have it any more and I am GOING to change it”. Joe must not have hit that bottom yet and I guess I almost think he should have hit bottom and come out of it. They say it is a disease and to some point, I can believe it but I guess I don’t believe it totally. Where is the forward thinking to change what looks like will happen in the future based on the decisions that have been made to this point? You can’t change the past but you need to deal with it and then move away from it so that the present is what is happening NOW and not trying to continuously “change” the past. When working on what is happening now, it helps to change the path of the future. Why doesn’t Joe see that?
I guess I am biased because I have had some experience with this “thing” and I have left it behind. If I can do it, I almost feel like it should be possible for Joe too. Sometimes, I think it might have been possible for my path to go in a different way if I made different choices. I had issues and I got away from them. Joe’s current life has the “look” of happiness so why does he want to destroy it with this “thing” when it can be left behind?
Always text! You can take your time and tell a whole story, or text one sentence and be done all day, you don’t have to worry about pauses or….WAIT A MINUTE! I just realized I already wrote about this… look back to January… Has WordPress already ran out of ideas? Did anyone else notice this?
How do you DEFINE a friend? That is difficult because it is different for everyone. This is a great blog topic because they could all be so much different. There is no real definintion for a friend. Well, that being said, I looked it up in the Webster’s dictionary, you can see the definition below my blog.
Is a friend the woman who works at the next desk at work from you? Is a friend an occasional text on a lazy saturday? How do YOU define a friend? A friend has some similarities with you and has some willingness to learn more about you and your life. Is interested in what you have to say about you but shares about their life as well. A friend does things for you even when you don’t ask for them. A friend remembers birthdays, anniversaries and other special events with a card or a phone call. As per my title, a friend is part way to stalker but a more welcome one, hopefully. I only say that because it is someone who is always there or on the phone, calling you, but with a friend, you are also calling them. This person is ready and willing to be your shoulder to cry on or your listening ear. A friend also supports you in which ever life events you are working on or dreaming up for that matter.
Also, a friend is someone who stands up for the truth and for what is right and if those pants really don’t look good on you, a friend is the one to tell you! A friend would not let you hurt yourself by letting you drive drunk or let you get involved with that loser (at least not without something to say about it!) A friend cries with you, laughs WITH you but sticks up for you when others laugh AT you. A friend may drive long distances for you or travel to see you from across the country.
A friend is all of the above and more! (or less if THAT is your definition)
Webster’s Dictionary Definition of FRIEND:
a : one that is not hostile b : one that is of the same nation, party, or group
one that favors
or promotes something (as a charity)
capitalized : a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war —called also Quaker
I know this is not today’s actual blog topic but I stole it from 1/4/11… ha!
I would rather text all day long rather than talk.
- You have to know exactly what you are saying for a longer period of time when you are talking on the phone.
- you can’t make a personal phone call and talk while you are at work, in a meeting, on the bus, in a noisey bar, in front of your boss
- Pauses are awkward.
- you will undoubtedly forget something you wanted to say on the call and have to call again
- being on the phone for a long time gives your arm a cramp
- You are never quite sure how to end the conversation. “Ok talk to you later, have a nice day, bye”
- It is embarrassing for your phone to ring while you are in public
- It doesn’t matter how long you wait between
- You can write one sentence and say nothing else
- it is the opposite of everything above 🙂
- One con of texting is that you can’t see or understand what the emotions of the person are writing the text.
Where is my phone, I just got a text.